SHOULD GOVERNMENT BE INVOLVED IN ENCOURAGING MARRIAGE
17 April, 2002
Traditional Marriage isan agreed upon union of a man and a woman for mutual benefit. Such a union carries with it legal and social responsibilities. If a union is just for companionship and sex and the intangibles that go with having a companion and if there is no religious component to the union, there may well seem no need for the legally, socially and religiously sanctioned rites and agreements that have been part of this concept for pretty well ever. Hence we will have what we have come to see as the Scandinavian attitude to marriage.
When there are no children either the man or the woman may move out and on and little harm be done. But when a man and a woman decide to have a child the woman needs the protection of marriage. At this point she is faced with a fairly long period of time in which she will be either greatly inconvenienced or absolutely disabled in carrying, birthing, nursing and nurturing the child. This disability will continue at least until the child reaches school age and in a lesser but strong way for many years. In that time period a woman can not well continue to both work and adequately nurture a child. In fact if a woman has not previously had some very good preparation to earn a living she may well not be able to do much of anything. It is then that a man must be bound with strong strictures. A man can easily cut and run from all the unpleasantness and difficulties attendant with raising a child. It is easy enough to justify such running. Plenty of married men do so. Then what may we expect of the unmarried man who has made whatever arrangements were made with the expectation of sexual and other of his needs, of his desires, being met. Babies may not seem so cute when they become costly, noisy, intrusive and signal the end of what may have more or less play. Nerves may fray and tempers flare in such circumstances. How hard is for the unmarried man to simply pack and leave. This leaving will often plunge the woman and child into immediate poverty. In such circumstances, the proposal of President Bush that government promote marriage makes perfect pragmatic, economic and social sense.
The Bush administration proposes that welfare reforms include the idea of granting about 300 million dollars for state governments to experiment with programs that promote marriage or provide ways for families to remain intact. Several states are already doing so. The rationale for this is that about 45 to 50 percent of single mother families live below the poverty line. And 300 million seems little enough in a welfare budget of some 16.5 billion dollars. The experimental nature of the concept is eerily like Franklin Roosevelts idea of taking up the thing and seeing if it works; if it does work, keep it and if it does not work, drop it and try another. Who would have expected new deal like social policies from a Republican administration, or have expected the quietly anti-new deal like (conservative?) response of the Democrats. It is almost like the continuum got extended to the point that the ends now meet.
Mr Horn, Assistant Secretary in the Department of Health and Human Services says, according to an article from MSNBC, that government has said that the programs would be voluntary for states and for individuals and are not intended to pick out mates, trap women in abusive relationships or penalize anyone who is single. . I just want to know why this is such a controversial idea, said Horn...."
Democrats contend that Bush has gone for a conservative Christian, prayer meeting like issue. Yet strangely enough, only 35 percent of conservative, white, evangelical Christians favor the Bush plan. Since a good 79 percent of Americans think the plan is a bad idea the whole thing may be moot. This anti position seems an odd position for evangelicals or anyone to take. Almost everyone admits that in America at least, children of two parent families do better, and that children of single member families suffer by comparison in both school and work, and that the poverty that some 45 to 55 percent of single parent families live in is a direct result of the lack of economic support by the absentee fathers. It has been said that in America the welfare system grew as a response to the waning of marriage and the consequent impoverishment of single mothers and their children..
The obvious solution seems to be to see that more marriages either survive or occur and hence that the welfare rolls decline along with the taxes that support them. When we see that the obvious solutions are rejected, and rejected heavily by nearly everyone, we must suppose that other agendas are at work here. When even conservative Christians decry a program for the promotion of what they see as the good of marriage vs. the evil of cohabitation some very strong countervailing elements are at work. Those attitudes become clear when we read the two article with which Larry has provided us. If I had seen those works before I typed up this one I would have just counter jabbed them instead of making these comments. I find the arguments there incredible, gaseous, padded, partisan and appalling. Now, I shall no more than allude to those attitudes ( I can not in good conscience refer to such muddle headed comments as arguments).
But whatever the contravailing attitudes leading to such dislike of government intrusion into marriage, Europe has long since reached and passed these points, though it is perhaps coming from a different direction and passing a different point. The New York Times, March 24, 2002, commenting on the situation in Europe headlines their article, WITH THE BLESSINGS OF SOCIETY, EUROPEANS OPT NOT TO MARRY. One interviewee said that she and her mate would only marry if it, non-marriage, affected the child, and they had found that it did not. It did not affect the child socially because in Norway 49 percent of all births in 1999 were to unwed parents. In Iceland,... 62 percent. In France... 41 percent... Britain, 38 percent. And in Ireland 31 percent... a figure on par with that in the United States. Thus the social stigma has declined. And with high taxes subsidizing single parent or unmarried parent families the economic penalty is greatly lessened. However, with all this talk of unwed births, it is said that ultimately, after a precipitous drop there has been an incremental increase of late in marriage. It is said that most still marry at some point. What we are seeing is supposedly just a decision to delay marriage. Perhaps. But note the increase is incremental and may turn out to be more illusionary than genuine. What I also noted is that the tone of the report is odd. First, a Scandinavian sociologist says almost proudly that they do not take marriage very seriously. Then she reports that, even so, most people do eventually marry, so, one gets the feeling , thats ok.
Then, one is told that even with European wide legislation to give children born out of wedlock the same inheritance rights as other children, financial grants to the children of single parents, and in Britain the removal of a special tax break for married couples and an increase in cash allowances for families with children... couples are opting to marry at some point . One assumes this bias, slight as it is, towards marriage, at some point is pushed by some of the same practical financial motives that the Bush administration wishes to achieve by pushing marriage. That is, those in Europe, who marry do so to insure legal and financial protection for the family if one of them dies or falls ill. In France, as in most countries, a surviving live-in partner has no automatic inheritance rights. Until I read this I had been assuming that the legal and financial arrangements that were made to stabilize unwed cohabitation made such cohabitation little different than marriage. Apparently it is not so. I think it could be made so, but if it were it would simply be marriage, lacking the religious element, and as such, pretty much what marriage is for those who opt for it in Europe today anyway.
(What we see there, may, for us, just be the thin end of a secular wedge so evident in the European region. Frances new anti-cult laws may merely reflect a general dislike of any religious enthusiasm and hence of religious sanction of marriage or anything else, morals included. Perhaps that also explains the odd arguments being made in Larrys two articles)
But, after that interjection, back to the finding that those who finally decide to marry, often decide to divorce, and many of the co-habiting couples eventually split up after having a child. And there we are again with the single parent problem and the affected child. Even if were not a financial disability, the child grows up without two parents. This must be taken as a bad thing no matter how good the single parenting is. I wonder what will become of European single parent families as birth rates continue to decline and hence the tax base which supports the higher income of such families also wanes. With the influx of foreign workers doing more and more of the basic jobs of the European state, it appears difficult to sustain an expensive, extensive, social welfare regime. Somewhere along the line, Europe will likely face what the U.S. now sees, i.e. 45 to 50 percent of single mothers and their children living below the poverty line. For the United States with its bias against government intervention into the lives of people and its aversion to higher taxes there seems no solution to the problem other than getting used to the situation.
If anything is to be done, one or the other of the biases must give way. Either we opt for a welfare state and the higher taxes needed to sustain it, or government, or something, must intervene in favor of marriage (woops, isnt that the welfare state). My money is on government involvement in ncouraging marriage. It, my money, is either upon that encouragement of marriage or upon higher taxes, and it will take less of my money if my money is placed in the first solution, that is, on the encouragement of marriage, less at least than on the second option which is government intervention into my wallet in favor of non-marriage.